indeed, proper downsampling involves a blur operation first. i use a gaussian blur prior to downsampling also. and yeah, ive not been sure either what the exact blur settings should be. ive been meaning to ask around if anyone has any thoughts on that. what ive been doing is to set the blur equal to half the supersampling amount. it seems to turn out to my taste anyway. and yeah, a good sampling filter is also a must. ive taken a liking to and have been using Jinc. i find the simpler and more common ones to give subpar results, especially when you are taking the loads of extra time it takes to render that extreme amount of supersampling.
as far as how much supersampling to use, well, people seem to have different tolerance thresholds for what they think is perfect or even good enough. if you are rendering just based on DE, less supersampling is needed to get pretty good results. if you are coloring based on escape time, well personally i find anything <= 8x subpar. 12x seems like it is probably always good enough, but i often do 16x ...well, just because i can.
honestly, ive observed that a lot of people who are into rendering are resistant, certainly at first, to the notion of supersampling, especially the notion of doing it in large amounts, simply because if they were to accept it, it would mean A) that theyve basically been doing it wrong thus far, and B) if they were to do it properly going forward, it is going to take a whole lot longer to accomplish less than they are used to.
all the junk people post on deviantart for instance, they always add a note in the description instructing you to click on the image to view it full size so you can see all the details. when i see the initial scaled down image i usually think, hey, that looks pretty good. then when i click to view it at full res, my eyes spontaneously combust as my senses are overloaded with all that horrible awful aliasing and distinct LACK of detail. as the blood pours from my eyes i quickly try to escape back to the scaled down image as fast as humanly possible..